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I would like also to speak of what happens in the environment and the ex-ex-numerary numerary, such as parents and siblings are in the difficult time of detoxification and rehabilitation of their children and family life as they can help, they spend fatal and the environment, often do not know how to act.
We are in this case and I must confess that sometimes we are desperate. Is there someone interested in the topic?
A hug to everyone.
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19 November de 2002 at 11:58:35
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| Josevall Friend: I can not help much while I was not a tenured. But not long ago in this very forum addressed the same issue with a mother. That subject will find on page 3 of the forum (click on "General" and all will appear below the page. Click on "3" and see the topic entitled "I am a mother of an ex-cash"). You have two pages of answers. I remember that many fellow forum and many ex-numerary tried to advise this mother. Maybe you serve. Saludos y ánimo. |
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Dear Jose:
Personally I am very interested in this topic to the point that it is urgent to put together a movement of people - who initially may be on the Internet - to help the newly hatched and their families.
This is the main reason why I participate in this Forum. I think telling my experiences can help many people into trouble.
But let the point of your concern is very serious and has emergency.
The output of an opus personadel is extremely painful because you see that the mental models and the parameters that you moved for xx amount of years, change from one day to another. The most painful for the person is seen as the opus leaves isolated and without any real emotional containment. This sudden change in mood nievl so it causes a depression gegeral / desilucion great a person.
We should see, like your son came out. If it came out mentally speaking and went out on his own initiative or if ainimicamente affected and depressed because it came from. Both cases have the second solution but it will take longer.
Equally practical advice for both cases are:
Treat it with love, even though it RECEIVE rejection, insults and anger.
Accompany to induce and do things like going to the movies, to concerts, football games, casino, outdoor walks, etc..
Invite their friends to your house. Ask friends and / or relatives who ask them out.
No load with importunate demands (the opus is full of it and something that will cause a lot of rejection at first).
If possible, find a cure intelligent and good person to help with talking to demystify the opus idiotic it into his head.
Give an example of good books by Thomas Merton, Charles valleys, Antony de Mello. Books that allow you to stay tied to religious matters but to breathe the air of freedom and love.
Finally and as a basis for everything you do with it. Treat you with love and Demonstration (hugging, touching, patting). Most important of all this reconstruction of personality is that he knows what Aman, a single person in the world and is loved selflessly (not for doing such a thing, but being who he is).
In short, these are the practical advice I can give. Otherwise, he will have to make an effort for their lives and also need psychological counseling (not with psychologists or psychiatrists opus).
Force Friend
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